The Game of Pursuit Can’t Be Won

It’s human nature to want what we don’t or can’t have, to crave things out of our reach.

We desire money, sex, fame, power, drugs, attention and on and on.

But with this constant craving for bigger and better things, we create our own misery.

“If only I had such and such, then I’d be happy and content with my lot in life.”

“I can’t be happy right now, because I don’t have (fill in the blank).”

But once we get what we want (if we even do), we quickly realize it isn’t so great after all, and we’re soon chasing after the next big thing. Sure, that new Rolex or designer hand bag will fill you with happiness at first, but the feeling is fleeting and soon you’ll need a bigger and better designer accessory to fill the void.

We end up spending our entire life striving, rather than arriving.

The game of pursuit can’t be won.

Having goals and aspirations drive us to succeed in life, and get us out of bed in the morning, so I’m not saying don’t go after what you want. But, it’s best to realize the situation for what it is, and not let yourself get too wrapped up in the pursuit. 

Don’t forget to enjoy the journey, appreciate and be happy with what you do have, and THEN and only then strive for new accomplishments and successes.

Humans tend to neglect their health in pursuit of wealth, and for what in the end? An inheritence your ancestors will surely blow on needless possessions like Rolexes and designer hand bags?

In light of Canadian Thanksgiving this past weekend, I’m reflecting on what I’m thankful for: family and health. Nothing else is worth a damn in the end.

Cliff notes:

1. Family
2. Health
3. Wealth


Mitch Calvert is a Winnipeg-based fitness coach for men and women like his former self. Heavyset in his 20s, he lost 60 pounds and now helps clients find their spark and lose the weight for life.